Today I thought I would like to talk about breastfeeding in public, but not just breastfeeding in public but breastfeeding in public UNCOVERED.
Seems a lot of women nowadays want to make a statement about breastfeeding in public, Im ALL for breastfeeding in public, I breastfed for 2 months (had trouble producing milk and couldnt do it longer) but UNCOVERED is appalling especially in a restaurant when people are trying to eat.
I think breastfeeding is a beautiful, miraculous thing, us women can give birth and breastfeed, how is that for awesomeness? Considering the downfall is getting periods and menopause, bad cramps and child birth. I had my daughter naturally and always said if I were to have another I would have a natural home water birth.
When this picture first went viral and news articles starting coming out about it, I just couldnt believe it, I was literally like WTF! Here is her retort to why she did what she did:
November 24, 2015 ·Earlier today I posted this picture of my son and I breastfeeding uncovered in a public restaurant. In the picture, it appears I’m staring off into the distance. In reality, I’m staring into the eyes of a woman staring at me. She is looking at me with disgust and shaking her head with judgement in an attempt to shame me and indirectly tell me without words that I am wrong and need to cover myself.
Let me make my reasoning clear on why I post pictures of my son and I publicly breastfeeding uncovered.
I don’t mean to say “Everyone should breast feed without a cover. Show the world your boobs!” If a mother is more comfortable covering herself because SHE feels better doing so, then I totally support that.
With that being said, the reason I post these types pictures is for the mother that tried breastfeeding uncovered once and she got shamed, she got stared and pointed at, she got nasty comments, she got asked to leave the room, she got asked to cover up.
Number one, breast feeding mothers are protected under federal law to breast feed any way, any how and any where they’re allowed to be in all circumstances otherwise. Number two, you should not ever feel shamed, belittled, embarrassed or wrong for feeding your baby the way nature intended. I do this for the person that has the mentality “Boobs are to be covered. They’re for your husbands eyes only. They’re intimate. It’s a personal/private thing to feed your baby. Cover up out of respect. My kids don’t need to see that. Walk out of the room.” and any other derogatory, close minded comments and sentiments alike.
Again, breasts were made to sustain your baby’s life before they were made to bring pleasure to any other man, woman, partner or spouse. Their sole purpose is to make food and dispense it straight into a baby’s mouth. There is nothing weird about this and there’s no difference in me feeding my baby with my breast than you feeding yourself with a spoon.
Secondly, it is exponentially unfair and selfish to ask a mother and baby to exclude themselves from a table or event or gathering because you’re for some reason uncomfortable with how she feeds her child. No person should be isolated and shunned because they’re eating, especially when you yourself are eating while ridiculing how someone else is eating. Is it not certainly easier to avert your eyes from a displeasing sight rather than suggest or demand a mother and child remove themselves from your presence? How pompous and selfish is this? Just look away. It’s simple to do so. No harm done at all.
Lastly, your children need to see breastfeeding for the same reason you do. They need to acknowledge, comprehend and appreciate that breast milk and breast feeding is and should forever be the first and best choice for both mom and baby. Formula and bottles are a trend. Breastfeeding is not. Your 11 year old daughter watching me nurse may say “Mom, why is that baby sucking her boobie?” But as a parent and human being that understands, respects and appreciates anatomy and mothers, your reply should only and always be “because that’s the way babies eat.” Hopefully it encourages your daughter to grow up with the goal to breast feed and experience the incredible bond and invaluable benefits it comes with.brazen
So again, I don’t post this for attention. I don’t post this because I think everyone should nurse uncovered. I post this to give mamas encouragement. And to encourage others to make breastfeeding mothers feel accepted and supported; not alienated, ridiculed and judged.
a badass breastfeeding (uncovered) mama.” her original post: CLICK HERE
Although I completely agree with her on breastfeeding in public, I totally digress her need to do it uncovered. It is not empowering, it is taking away the privacy of feeding your child and intimacy of breastfeeding and to be so to do it in a restaurant I can only conclude she did it for attention just like most moms doing it like that and saying that they are making a statement. I call bullshit. I do also however agree with her on non-vaccinations and that we shouldnt circumcise neither. As far as vax go our bodies heal themselves and have for thousands of years. As far as circumcision goes, human males were made that way. I am a high believer and GOD and aspiring Christian and I read about circumcision in The Bible and it makes absolutely no sense to me at all. God made males that way, WHY would he want to circumcise what he made??
Back to the attention thing, she now has over 43,000 followers on her facebook profile and over 120,000 shares on that particular post. Her facebook page also has over 11,000 LIKES. More power to her to drive that kind of traffic. But she will have people who are disgusted and disagree with her.
As far as women who are COVERED getting kicked out of public places or even reprimanded by authorities, I totally disagree with that kind of discrimination. My old employment set up a breast feeding room so that the women didnt have to pump in the smelly bathroom or in their cars. Its not that hard to setup.
Alyssa Milano Instagram I just first want to say I adore Alyssa Milano and think she is gorgeous but I think she encourages breastfeeding in public uncovered because, we people, as a society look up to celebrities and Alyssa Milano is an activist of sorts. So they see as Alyssa is doing it and then decide to do it too basically.
Breastfeeding in public is great, just keep it to yourself please.